Sep 072014
 

The Mystery of the Undercover Clitoris – Orgasmic Fingertip Touching Every Woman Craves

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-The Facts-

Title: The Mystery of the Undercover Clitoris – Orgasmic Fingertip Touching Every Woman Craves
Author: Dr. Sadie Allison
Publishing Company: Tickle Kitty Press
ISBN: 978-0-9914914-0-7
6.8 x 5, 128 pages
2014

The Mystery of the Undercover Clitoris is a clever guide that’s designed to help improve the quality of pleasure your fingers bring to your female partner(s). Using easy to understand instructions and useful illustrations, this book takes away all the guess work and leaves you with awesome tips and pointers.  No matter if you’re a total novice or consider yourself a clitoral connoisseur, there’s something to be learned and tested out.

This book was written for the gentlemen who desire to pleasure their female partner(s) in the best way possible.  Dr. Sadie Allison has a great tone to her writing that makes it easy to read and retain, and also entertaining.  Some guide books provide clinical information that sounds monotone even in your mind, but the author writes in a way that holds your interest and feels familiar.  It’s almost like talking to a good friend who happens to be well educated in female sexual pleasure.

The book begins with the basics.  It starts of by encouraging you to examine your fingertips, and promises you’ll be viewing them in a different light by the end of the book.  From there, it briefly touches on the fact that many men simply don’t know how women like to be pleasured, and that this book was born from a need for that information.  It goes on to explain what you’ll find in each chapter, and then gives you a four question quiz to see what your Clitoral IQ is before reading the book.  You’ll learn the answers as you go along (if you don’t know them already), but there’s also an answer key toward the end of the book (no cheating!).

Untitled-3The next chapter is all about anatomy.  Here you’ll find three labeled illustrations, detailed information about each area, and even ways you can help understand how they feel (for example: comparing the sensitivity of the labia majora to the skin of the scrotum).  Not only does it mention the various parts of the vulva, but it also includes other internal and external areas that work as the vulva’s ‘supporting players’; surrounding areas that are sensitive as well.

Chapter three is all about lubrication and the important role it plays in sexual touch.  It mentions both stimulated and simulated lubes, and reassures that sometimes women have trouble with self lubrication for a variety of reasons (and not to take it personally).  It touches on how saliva can be used as a natural lubricant, and then provides information on both water-based and silicone-based lubes.  I was pleased to see Dr. Sadie Allison mentions that some women are sensitive to glycerin and parabens, and that some heating and specialty lubes might cause irritation.  She also brings up a great point when she mentions avoiding lube substitutes you might have in your home (like lotion) which could cause serious discomfort.

The Big Oh! is the topic of chapter four; and you can probably guess what it’s about.  It encourages you to tune into your partner, and explains the four stages of female orgasm – excitement, plateau, orgasm, resolution.  From there, you’re provided with some important points to keep in mind when it comes to your partner’s orgasm.  Things like how long on average it takes a woman to orgasm, that some women have never had an orgasm, and that each one is unique.

Setting the mood is an important element when it comes to pleasure, and you’ll find information about that in chapter five.  For many women, warming up is absolutely necessary in order to achieve orgasm.  It (typically) takes women a lot longer to warm up than men, and eagerness can often lead to discomfort or annoyance.  There are some great tips here that will help get your partner primed and ready, and gives helpful advice if what you’re doing isn’t working.

Chapter six is titled Polishing the Clitoral Jewel and is full of simple ways you can drive your partner crazy.  Pay attention to the subtle cues she’s giving you while you’re touching her, softly ask if she’s enjoying what you’re doing, tease her clitoris by only touching surrounding areas, etc.  It’s all about ways you can take touch to a whole new level.

Untitled-2Time for illustrations!  Chapter seven is full of ten different techniques that are explained and shown in a way that’s easy to follow.  One page contains the illustration, and the next gives a description on how to accomplish it.  The layout of this chapter is great because you can read and view the same technique without having to flip pages.  Some are more basic than others, but there should be at least one or two that you’ve never tried before.  If you’re comfortable, this would be a great chapter to share with your partner, and ask them which ones they might like to try.  Or, you could simply surprise then with your newly learned skills.

Untitled-4Chapter eight is very similar to the former, but is centered around sexual positions.  It opens up with some general sex tips and ideas that will increase pleasure (and some things you should avoid doing), and then moves into the illustrated positions.  The positions probably all seem very familiar, but perhaps you haven’t tried stimulating her clitoris at the same time.  The pages are laid out the same way as chapter seven, but the illustrations are a little more on the comical side.  It provides the same great information, but I couldn’t help but chuckle at some of them.

The final two chapters are about safer sex and where to go from here (now that you’ve finished the book).  The safer sex information is pretty straight forward and gives you tips on how to prevent the spread of STIs.  It recommends using condoms, barriers, cleaning up well, and staying sober as ways you can practice safer sex.  The books ends on with a reminder to think of your partner’s pleasure first and to be patient.

-My Thoughts-

When I first saw The Mystery of the Undercover Clitoris, I was intrigued.  I’ve seen plenty of other books surrounding female pleasure, but I haven’t come across one that was strictly written for men on the topic of finger play.  Though the information isn’t written for me (the vulva possessing partner), I figured there might be a tip or two I could pass along to my husband.

What I liked about the book:

The way it’s written.  The book is very quick and easy to read (it took me about thirty minutes), and is great as a reference.  The information is simple to follow and easy to understand.  So even if you’ve never touched a vulva before, you’ll have a great idea on what to expect before that glorious day.  The illustrations are awesome for those that learn more from seeing than reading, but the information compliments them well.

I really appreciated all the ways Dr. Sadie Allison explained various sensations, using the scrotum and an earlobe to explain how things feel, for example.  I think providing examples like that really help someone understand since they can touch themselves and understand what their partner is experiencing.  I also found the reassurance throughout the book to be extremely helpful.  If your partner isn’t naturally lubricating or if they’re not able to have an orgasm, a variety of reasons are given as to why that might be happening (many reasons have nothing to do with you) and what you can try.

What I didn’t like:

There are a lot of places throughout the book that refer to the stereotypical male – a sports reference, some porn watching references, and a lot about rushing to get to sex.  One part in particular jumped out at me.  In chapter five when it talks about getting her in the mood, it poses this question: What does being ‘in the mood’ really mean?  The lines that follow say:

“You’re a guy.  Which means, in most cases, “ready for sex at any moment.”  For instance, at this moment.  Right?”

It might be that I’m too sensitive about these things, and honestly, my husband probably would have overlooked them all.  But it was glaring at me because it was completely unnecessary and could have been stated in a different way.  I think this was the author’s way of being relate-able, but it left a sour taste in my mouth.  It also constantly mentions that the more effort you put in, the more your partner with do for you.  This may be true in general, but it certainly shouldn’t be expected or be the motive behind pleasuring her.

There were some things I felt could have been touched on that weren’t.  It only very briefly mentions that women have varying vulva shapes, sizes, and appearances (and only mentioned it with another sarcastic porn reference), but says nothing about pubic hair (or lack of).  I know for me, if I’ve just shaved, my skin becomes much more easily irritated when rubbed.  Some men might not realize that, and some women might be afraid to speak up.  Another discomfort that I felt could have been touched on, is how rough nails can feel if they aren’t cut or filed evenly.  I think adding in some tips on avoiding accidental discomfort (like what I just mentioned) would have improved the book.

Overall, I feel like this is a great book for someone looking to improve their partner’s pleasure, or someone wanting to learn as much as they can before beginning.  It’s full of important information, and though I feel it lacks a few things, it’s a great resource in general.  Read it alone or together with a partner, as a great way to improve the pleasure received.

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The Mystery of the Undercover Clitoris was provided to me free of charge in exchange for an unbiased review.  This is in compliance with FTC guidelines.

  3 Responses to “Review: The Mystery of the Undercover Clitoris”

  1. Ohh sounds like a book I need to have on deck. I like to be touched a certain way and I hate explaining to people how to do it at times. I would not mind seeing if there are other spots I enjoy but for now I like a certain way and tend to stick to it.

  2. Crazy thought but…..instead of reading a book, I think partners should just talk to each other. Is this idea too out there?

    I’ve glanced through a few other books by the same author and was struck by the “trying too hard” vibe in her writing tone, but I’m easily irritated :)

    • Oh, I definitely agree with you on that one!

      That being said, I know firsthand that communicating what you want isn’t always easy. I’ve struggled with it because I always felt that my pleasure comes second to my partner’s. I think there’s an audience for books like this, and sometimes it can help break down barriers that have prevented necessary conversation.

      I also think books like this can be beneficial to men who haven’t experienced pleasuring a partner before. It seems a lot of men have anxiety surrounding female pleasure (that’s been my experience at least) and this provides enough information that it should relieve some of the performance anxiety surrounding it.

      It’s definitely not something that will suit everyone, and I can completely understand where you’re coming from, but being open about your pleasure doesn’t come easily to everyone (I’m only now starting to express the things I desire).

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