Nov 222013

The Mea Culpa Silicone Whip from Sex and Metal

- Gorgeous design
- Handcrafted
- Well made
- Safe, easy to clean materials
- Provides different sensations
- Quite large/harder to store
- Learning curve for use
- Might be too intimidating/intense for some




The Mea Culpa from Sex and Metal is a silicone whip that’s sure to put you in your place.  Mea Culpa is a noun that is “a statement in which you say that something is your fault”.  Whether you’re in a dom/sub relationship or simply enjoy a little punishment in your play, this whip is bound to correct your bad behavior.

The force behind the impact is totally up to you.  Lighter slaps are great to start with, but it’s not difficult to build up to stronger blows.  The sensations can range from hard thuds, to sharp stinging sensations depending on how the impact is delivered.  The handle itself was not designed to be inserted into the body, but the ball on the end can be used as a massage aid.  It’s easy to apply pressure where you need it, either before or after your delicious punishment; making it fairly versatile.

The overall design of the whip is very bold looking, but can be used by and on any gender, in any type of relationship.  It’s likely to intimidate beginners based on the look and size alone, but will work for anyone who feels adventurous.  If you purchase The Mea Culpa and end up feeling too intimidated by it, you can always use it as a prop in some sexy boudoir photos for your special someone.


All the products available from Sex and Metal are handcrafted by artisans and built to last.  The Mea Culpa is made from silicone and raw steel, bringing you a sharp sting and a striking handle.  Silicone is a body-safe material that doesn’t contain latex or phthalates, and is non-porous.  You can safely use it on any area of the body, and easily share if properly cleaned.  For regular use you can wipe the end down with a toy wipe or cleaner, or carefully wash with antibacterial soap and warm water.  If it comes in contact with bodily fluids, you can also clean it with a 10% bleach solution to disinfect.   As with any silicone item, use caution around silicone lubricants since they sometimes don’t react well to each other and could potentially damage the surface of the whip.


Untitled-3The silicone part of the whip has a shiny surface that slides easily across your skin.  It does attract very fine dust/dirt that makes it appear more gray in color than black (if you chose the black silicone when making your purchase), but washes off easily.  There’s a lot of flex and movement to this area, which is important because of its purpose.  It sort of sags when you hold the whip straight, and the end itself folds at least a little no matter how you’re holding it.

Untitled-4The handle is polished steel which is coated with a clear finish to bring out the natural beauty of the piece.  Surrounding it are three rows of twisted metal which not only adorn it, but help keep your grip during use.  These small details don’t strongly effect use, but certainly make a statement.  Each row is welded onto the handle prior to being clear coated, making them impossible to break off and totally smooth in your hand.  Being handcrafted, you can naturally Untitled-7see the weld marks and they don’t look perfect.  That being said, I actually really enjoy the way it looks; sometimes small imperfections truly add to the overall appearance.

At the top of the handle are two pieces that look like spikes.  These are in place not only to look aggressive, but to hold the silicone strongly in place.  It’s very well done and would be difficult to accidentally damage or cause it to come apart.  The center of the silicone feels like there’s a thick tube inside (at the base where it connects with the handle) that prevents the entire length from sagging.


This bad boy was designed to look fierce!  I’ve seen a variety of different whips, but I’ve never seen anything quite like this.  The rolled silicone is something totally new to me and is called Dragon’s Tongue.  When you look at it and feel the fiery sting, it’s obvious why it has that title.  The tip of the whip comes to a point, and when you flick your wrist the right way, it sends a burning sting wherever it connects to the body.


Sex and Metal gives you two options for silicone colors (Black or White) and two options for your handle (Natural Steel, or Candy Apple Red); giving you a choice to best match your tastes.  I love the look of steel and love black, so those were the options I chose.  As you can see from comparing my personal photos to the ones on the website, each product will differ slightly since they’re each handcrafted.  There were two obvious differences with mine.  The ball on the end of the one I Untitled-8received is a darker color than the handle and doesn’t have the same surface design.  It doesn’t change usability and doesn’t take away from the appearance.  The other difference are the weld marks being on the back of the handle, which actually enhances the appearance.

The size of The Mea Culpa is a little surprising when you first have it in your hands.  Though the site has the size information directly on the product page, it’s a totally different experience holding it in your hands.  The full length of this whip is 29 1/4″; 9″ for the handle and 20 1/4″ for the Dragon’s Tongue.  It only differs slightly from the measurements provided, but is very common with handcrafted products and doesn’t change the way it functions.

With the handle being made from steel, it’s no surprise there’s some weight to this whip.  It’s quite solid, but takes a while for your arm to grow tired from use.



After browsing the Sex and Metal website for what seemed like hours, I was finally able to come up with a short (okay, fine…it’s long) list of products I have to have from them.  The Mea Culpa was the first whip that made it onto the list; with the Dragon’s Tongue silicone and the gorgeous handle, I couldn’t resist!

It shipped quickly and arrived in a plain brown box that’s completely discreet.  I actually had to pause for a moment to think what it might be.  When I opened it up, the silicone was simply folded over and placed inside as is.  There was nothing surrounding it apart from some brown paper that prevented it from moving around during shipment.

My first impression of the whip was shock.  Though the size is stated on the product page, it was very surprising at first to see it in person.  Once that shock wore off, I couldn’t get over how stunning it was!  The sexy black silicone, the smooth steel handle, and the gorgeous twisted metal surrounding it.  My husband’s reaction was equally priceless; eyes growing wide, tracing his fingers over every detail, and mentioning how ‘bad ass’ it was.  Yeah, we were excited to try it out!

My husband and I aren’t in a dom/sub relationship and don’t participate in much of anything that looks like BDSM.  That being said, we recently discovered the fun of impact play and have been testing the waters.  We’ve tried a variety of paddles and some super cheap crops, but this was the first whip we’d ever used.

I told him to ease me into it, since I was quite unsure how extreme the whip would be.  He listened well and I was surprised at how loud the slap sounded, without causing pain.  He went easy on me a few times and asked if I was ready for more.  The next few blows were much harder, but he was still learning how to use the whip.  Rather than snapping his wrist back and catching me with the tip, he was hitting me solidly with the thicker part of the silicone.  It created a very ‘thuddy’ sensation that was manageable.  As he continued, he learned how to really snap it, and that’s when I really started feeling what this whip can do.

Naturally my husband is, perhaps unintentionally, more gentle with me than he needs to be.  Be loves me and doesn’t want to hurt me, so I think it’s harder for him to really hit me hard in general.  With that said, I think he’s starting to get over that a little bit.  When the tip of the silicone connects with your skin in just the right way, it literally feels like it slices you.  This was a new sensation for me.  I’ve felt an overwhelming burn from paddles before, I’ve felt stings, but never have I felt like something cut into my body.

I loved it!

Untitled-9When we were finished, I reached around and rubbed my warmed skin.  I could feel welts where the silicone hit perfectly, and we both were pleased with the results.  This photo was taken about ten minutes after we were finished, so some of the red had already started to fade.  The welts lasted a bit longer, probably thirty minutes to an hour, but didn’t cause me discomfort while I was sitting down.  Obviously the harder you’re hit, the longer the sensation will last, but I was extremely pleased with the results we personally had.  If you have a partner you totally trust, it really doesn’t matter if you’re new to impact play or not.  Being able to ease into it was key for us, and we couldn’t be more pleased with our experience!

If you’re interested in purchasing The Mea Culpa Whip or another gorgeous handcrafted BDSM product, you can by clicking the banner below.

The Mea Cupla Whip was provided to me free of charge in exchange for an unbiased review.  This is in compliance with FTC guidelines.

Nov 222013

The Amazing Web Shooter from Doc Johnson

- Made from silicone
- Unique and fun design
- Appeals to a different audience
- Extreme texture could cause discomfort
- Minor surface issues from mold
- Doesn’t come with storage




The Amazing Web Shooter from the Super Hung Heroes line by Doc Johnson looks like it could be the shaft of Spiderman himself!  Covered in an amazing pattern, this dildo is not only interesting to look at, but the prominent webs fulfill a texture lover’s cravings.

Though the color isn’t flesh tone and the surface is highly textured, the shape itself is quite familiar.  The shaft has a wonderful curve that helps it connect with the G-spot or P-spot and the large base at the bottom makes it harness compatible and anal safe.  It doesn’t matter what gender you are or what your sexual orientation is, this dildo has a use for just about anyone.

The bottom is totally flat and has neither a suction cup or bullet hole.  If you want to make this dildo vibrate, you could simply place a vibrating cock ring at the base of the shaft and use it as you normally would.  And since there are no internal working parts, you can take it with you into the tub or shower without worrying about any water leaking inside of it.


Untitled-7The Amazing Web Shooter is made from silicone which is a great material for a sex toy because it’s non-porous, latex free, phthalate free, and easy to clean and care for.  Silicone toys are available in a wide range of firmness levels as well, which means they can be very squishy or quite hard.  This particular dildo is a medium firmness, having a fair amount of give while remaining easy to thrust with.


The surface is matte and covered in a texture that reminds me of canvas.  It has a rough look to it, but doesn’t feel rough against your skin.  It does have drag (which causes it to pick up some lint as well) and requires a lot of lubricant, but is smoother to the touch than it looks.

Untitled-5Along with that surface texture, is a very prominent web-like design.  This creates a very extreme texture that isn’t for the faint of heart.  Every line is exaggerated and can be felt during use.  This will either be a positive thing (if you’re a texture lover) or a negative (if you prefer smoother toys).  The bottom side of the shaft (toward the top) has a spider within the web that’s puffed out a little more than the rest of the texture.  It has an interesting look and really ties the whole theme together.

I did notice a couple small areas of the toy where the mold wasn’t perfect.  They are very small and don’t effect use, but can be seen.  A couple areas look like the surface was flattened, and there are a few tiny places where it look like chunks were taken out (about the size of a pencil tip).


The design of The Amazing Web Shooter is where it really shines.  The whole Super Hung Heroes line features dildos based on comic book characters, how cool is that?  This particular one is obviously based on Spiderman.  Its vibrant red color and web pattern really pop and make it stand out from the rest.

The base of the dildo features a large mound which represents the testicles, and the tip has a great curve to it.  The texture covers the entire toy, tip to base, which is fairly unique.  Though the color and texture aren’t realistic, the shape definitely is.  There’s no denying this is a dildo.


The length of the dildo is really reasonable and isn’t likely to cause discomfort when thrusting, but the girth isn’t beginner friendly.  Though it’s not a huge toy, the texture makes it feel much larger than it is.  It’s 7″ long with an insertable length of 5 1/4″ and ranges in girth from 4 3/4″ at the thinnest to 6″ at the thickest point.

It’s a fairly heavy dildo which is both a positive and a negative.  You can set it down on a flat surface and ride it pretty easily without having to hold it in place since it has such a large base, but your arms might also get tired more easily when you thrust it.



Caring for The Amazing Web Shooter is pretty basic considering it’s made from silicone.  You can easily clean it with antibacterial soap and warm water or your favorite sex toy cleaner after use.  When you remove the toy, you’ll likely see stuff pooled inside the webbed areas, so be prepared for that.  If you clean it right away it’s really easy, but if you wait you’ll need to use a soft bristled tooth brush to get into all the small areas.  If you’re sharing with a partner or switching orifices, it’s important to sterilize the dildo between use.  You can do so by boiling for three minutes, cleaning it with a 10% bleach solution, or placing it on the top rack of your dishwasher.

Being made from silicone, it’s important to use only a water-based lubricant with the toy.  Other types could cause the surface to have a negative reaction, so it’s best to stick with what you know is safe to use.

The toy doesn’t come with storage apart from the actual package itself, so unless you’re going to put it on display, you might want to find something else.  A large storage pouch or a plastic Ziploc would work fine.


The Amazing Web Shooter arrives in a thin cardboard box.  It’s not discreet thanks to the wording and images on it, but the design looks like it was taken straight from a naughty comic book.  It has all the information you need to know about the product and has the company name boldly on it.  There’s no additional information inside the package, and your Web Shooter is simply inside a plastic bag.



When I first saw the Super Hung Heroes line I thought it was really creative and filled a void in the sex toy world.  I’m not a big comic book fan myself, but I can see this line being something of interest to a variety of people.  The Amazing Web Shooter was too cool looking NOT to try it out, and loving texture I thought it would be a great fit for me.

Did I say I love texture?  Now I’m wondering how true that is.

The first time I used the dildo, I only applied a little lube and tried to insert it without any success.  I had to add way more than normal just to get it in, and once it was I experienced nothing but discomfort and had to stop.  Okay, so I have some days where my body just isn’t into texture.  Or at least that’s what I thought.

The next time I tried it, I made sure I was nicely warmed up and really into it.  I made sure I applied plenty of lube and tried to push my first experience out of my mind.  No matter how I used it, how much lube I applied, or how ready I was, it caused discomfort.  I tried to press through it to see if I just needed to get used to it first, but I only ended up in pain as a result.  The material has a lot of give to it, but the texture is just too much for me.  I felt sore for hours after using it, and have no intentions on trying again.

If you truly love texture or think this is just a neat novelty item, I’d say it’s worth checking out.  But if you like smooth toys or light texture, this will likely be too much for you.  Just because it didn’t work for me, doesn’t mean you’ll have the same result.  Pay attention to the measurements, and know your body.  If you crave texture, this might be just what you’re looking for.

Interested in purchasing The Amazing Web Shooter or another dildo from the Super Hung Heroes line?  You can by visiting NiteTime Toys.


The Amazing Web Shooter was provided to me free of charge in exchange for an unbiased review.  This is in compliance with FTC guidelines.