Oct 302013

My damp skin, always a reminder of what you do to me.
The evidence of my emotions always present
through the crumpled up tissues piled high
beside me.
Love or lust, pain or shame…the moisture
always gives much away, revealing
everything I feel even when I try to hide it.
Emotions inside, bottled up and shaken,
seem to explode in any way they see fit;
running down my cheeks, or my legs,
just begging for release.
Please help me ease the tension;
wipe or rub, kiss or hug,
my skin is wet and needs attention.

Wicked Wednesday... be inspired & share...

Oct 292013


1. Can you tell when your lover is close to having an orgasm? How can you tell? What are the signs?

I absolutely can.  When we’re having sex it’s obvious as his movements quicken, breathing gets heavier, and his mouth opens.  During oral sex I can tell by the way he breathes, how his body quivers, and how much thicker he immediately feels in my mouth.

2. Ladies have you ever seen YOUR g-spot? Men have you actually seen the g-spot?

I have never seen it and neither has my husband.

3. Which sexual position do you find most stimulating?

a. missionary
b. woman on top, facing man
c. doggy style
d. other – tell us about it

B.  Nothing feels more intimate than being face to face and feeling him deep inside of me.

4. When you orgasm, are you:

a. silent
b. make a little noise
c. yell out!

I’m silent when I make myself climax, but make more noise when my husband brings me there.  I try to be quieter than not because I would hate to wake the kids (though it’s never happened), but I always make at least some noise.

5. A lover orgasms quickly, way before you are even close to having an orgasm. Do you stop the sex once he/she has had an orgasm or do you continue sexual play so you can orgasm too?

Sometimes he’ll take me there with oral sex, but often times I don’t get anything or need to handle it myself.

Bonus: On average, when you masturbate how long does it take to reach orgasm?
a. Less than 3 minutes
b. 3 – 5 minutes
c. 5 – 10 minutes
d. more than 10 minutes

both A and B depending on the day.  Sometimes it doesn’t take long at all, but other days it takes a little more time and effort.

TMI Tuesday blog
Oct 292013

Entice Lillian by California Exotic Novelties

- Made from silicone
- Compact
- Multi-function
- Waterproof
- Easy to use
- Dual motors can’t be operated separately
- Won’t fit everyone’s anatomy





Lillian from the Entice line by Cal Exotics is a dual stimulating vibrator; which is often called a rabbit.  This type of vibrator is designed to stimulate both internal pleasure zones through the insertable shaft, and externally through the clitoral arm.  It gives you both internal and external pleasure without needing to occupy both your hands.

Lillian is great for both solo use and couples play.  Its compact and non-threatening design make it a great option for someone looking to introduce toys to a new partner, or to purchase their first rabbit style vibrator.  Basic and easy to use, you won’t find it difficult to understand how to operate this vibe, even if you have no prior experience, and regular toy users will also appreciate the ease of use.

Though safe for anal play, this vibe wasn’t designed to be inserted anally.  If you decide that’s how you want to use it, be sure to sterilize when you switch orifices to prevent the spread of bacteria.

Being so compact makes it a wonderful travel companion and is safe to use in any environment.  Since it has an o-ring surrounding the base of the battery compartment, you can safely take it into the shower or tub without worrying about water leaking inside of it.


Made from silicone and ABS plastic, Lillian is body safe, non-porous, latex free, and phthalate free.  Both of these materials are extremely safe for a sex toy since they don’t harbor bacteria and are easy to clean and care for.

Untitled-3The inside of the toy and the battery compartment are made from plastic and the shaft and clitoral arm are covered in the silicone.  Because the internal parts are plastic, the shaft doesn’t have any flexibility to it and only a small amount of give.  The clitoral arm has three little feelers that are very flexible and are designed to connect with and stimulate your clitoris and other external pleasure zones.

The surface of the silicone is matte looking and doesn’t feel tacky or sticky.  It does collect a small amount of lint, but it’s manageable, and does create drag.  Adding some water-based lubricant will help the toy slide easier on and inside your body.

Untitled-5On either side of the shaft you’ll see a slightly raised swirl.  This is the only real texture to the toy, and it’s very minimal.  Those that prefer texture would probably be Untitled-8disappointed by it, but those that enjoy smoother toys probably wouldn’t mind since it’s not prominent.

Along both the front and back in the center of the shaft is an obvious seam.  You can easily see it, but you can only lightly feel it with your hands.  I couldn’t feel it at all during use, but someone who’s much more sensitive might be able to.


Like most dual stimulating vibrators, Lillian has both an internal and external area of the toy.  Though most have a clitoral arm in the shape of an animal or insect, this one doesn’t have either.  I’m honestly not sure what they were aiming for as far as the design, but it almost reminds me of some sort of featureless creature or strange vegetation.  Perhaps that’s my imagination running away with me, but I have no idea how else to describe the overall look of it.

This vibrator is available in both purple and raspberry, so if you’re not into girly colored toys, there isn’t another option for you.

The tip of the shaft has a very slight curve to it, and then you come to the textured sides.  The clitoral arm is toward the base of the shaft, and just beyond that is a gold colored plastic ring where the silicone and plastic meet.  The shiny plastic cap has the power button on the bottom.


The size is really surprising with this toy.  Most rabbit vibrators are longer, thicker, and have more features.  It’s actually a welcomed difference and one I think a lot of newer toy users can appreciate.  The thickest area of the toy is only 1″ in diameter, making it a comfortable size that should work even for those that aren’t used to penetration.  The full length of the toy is 6″, 3 1/4″ of that being insertable.  If you know you have a deeper G-spot, this might not be the right vibe for you.  The tip of the clitoral arm is 1 1/2″ from the shaft.  If your clitoris is closer than that, it’s likely one of the other stimulators will connect well, but if you have a higher clitoris you might not be able to reach both your clit and G-spot at the same time.


Dual stimulating toys don’t work for everyone.  They are pretty anatomy specific.  It’s hard to know what to choose for your first, but gets easier as you try different products.  If this one doesn’t fit your body properly, don’t give up on finding the right one for you.  Use your experience with this product to judge what needs to be different about your next purchase.


Lillian is powered by 2 AAA batteries that aren’t included with the toy.  The cap at the bottom of the toy twists off and a plastic tray gets removed for battery insertion.  The tray is properly marked so that there’s no confusion with how to insert them.  Once the tray has been replaced and the cap is back in place, you’re ready to power up your toy!


Many dual stimulators have the ability to work individually.  Lillian only has one button, so you can’t separately control the shaft and clitoral arm.  If the toy is turned on, both are powered at the same time.  This toy only vibrates, it doesn’t have a rotating or thrusting shaft like other rabbit vibes have; making it really easy to understand and use, but a little plain to someone who’s used to having all the bells and whistles.

There are a total of 7 different function modes, giving you a variety to suit your changing needs.  One press of the button on the bottom Untitled-7will bring you to your first vibration setting.  The button will illuminate with a red light when the toy is on, and simply glows steady.  Each press of the button will bring you to the next setting and will continuously cycle through.  When you’re ready to turn the toy off, you need to press and hold down the button for a few seconds.  The vibrations will cease and the light will turn off.

The vibration settings are as follows:

  1. Steady Low
  2. Steady Medium
  3. Steady High
  4. Escalation
  5. Pulse
  6. Quick Pulse
  7. Three Short Pulses, One Long (repeat)

Considering Lillian is powered by AAA batteries, it’s fairly powerful.  It’s between being rumbly and buzzy, and should suit the average user.  If you’ve been cursed with a clit of steel, you might not be able to orgasm while using this toy, but it should still be a nice warm up for other things.  Since it’s not light and buzzy, it shouldn’t numb you and make it impossible for you to climax after as a result.

There are two motors in this vibe, one in the clitoral arm and one in the shaft.  Because the toy is so compact, the vibrations travel really well throughout the toy; being equally powerful in both areas.  It does travel into the battery cap so you might get slightly tingly fingers after use.

The sound level is fairly discreet.  If you had someone in the same room with you they would be able to hear it, but with some white noise in the room and a closed door, no one would know what you were doing from outside the room.


Lillian can be cleaned using antibacterial soap and warm water or your favorite sex toy cleaner.  If you share with someone else or happen to use it for anal and vaginal use, be sure to sterilize in between.  Since there are internal working parts you can’t boil it or place it in the dishwasher like you can silicone dildos, but you can clean it with a 10% bleach solution.

It’s always recommended that you use a water-based lubricant with your silicone toys since some other types could potentially cause the surface to degrade.  It’s always best to stick with what’s safe and go with a water-based option.

Unfortunately, Lillian doesn’t come with a storage pouch.  It’s always best to find something to house your vibe in so that the surface is protected from possible damage.  A smaller toy pouch would work, but a small plastic Ziploc would be better than nothing.  The packaging isn’t great for long term storage, so it’s important to find a different option.


Untitled-9The cardboard box Lillian arrives in isn’t discreet, but it is tasteful.  The front and one side of the box have colored images of the toy it contains and the other side and back feature the product information.  There’s no additional information inside, so what you see on the box is what you get.  It’s really not important to keep unless you like holding on to things like that, and it can be broken down and disposed of as you normally would cardboard items.  Inside the box, the vibe is simply inside a bag, mostly loose within the package.


I always have a difficult time getting dual stimulating vibrators to work properly with my anatomy.  My clitoris is pretty high up and most clitoral arms fall short.  When I first saw Lillian I thought the external stimulator looked really interesting and hoped it would work out for me.

Well, it did…and it didn’t.

With the shaft fully inserted, the tip of the arm didn’t quite reach.  I tried a few different things and discovered if I only inserted part of the shaft and focused on connecting properly externally, it felt pretty nice.  I found myself moving the toy back and forth so I was being stimulated through the vibrations and the movement paired together.  The issue with focusing externally was that the toy wasn’t connecting properly with my G-spot.  It’s really such a hit or miss with toys like this, but as long as your clitoris isn’t far away like mine, I think it would work really well.

Being the power queen that I am, I was impressed overall and could have climaxed from it, but it would have taken a lot more effort than I wanted to put into it.  It’s a nice vibe that seems well made, has nice variety in function, and decent power.

Entice Lillian is available for sale at Pink Cherry, click the banner below to check it out.


calexEntice Lillian was provided to me free of charge in exchange for an unbiased review through the Cal Exotics Sexpert Program.  This is in compliance with FTC guidelines.

Oct 282013

Sumo from Blush Novelties

- Dual density silicone
- Suction cup base
- Easy to use
- Harness compatible
- Comes with storage pouch
- Sticky surface
- Marks easily
- Odd realistic/unrealistic appearance




Sumo from the Real Nude line by Blush Novelties is a dual density silicone dildo.  Dual density means there are two levels of softness; a firm inner core, and a plush outer layer which help the dildo feel more realistic.

The soft bulged head does a great job of stimulating the G-spot and creates and amazing popping sensation when thrust.  Because the base is nice and large, you have a great area to hold onto, or you can utilize the suction cup on the bottom while in the tub or shower for some hands free stimulation.

Thanks to the flared base, Sumo is also safe to use anally since there’s no way for it to go past the point of no return.  The base is wonderful for many reasons and makes it safe to use in a wide variety of ways, including using it in a harness.  Just make sure you use a condom and/or fully sterilize when switching between orifices to prevent the spread of bacteria.


Sumo is made from silicone which is a body safe, non-porous, latex free, and phthalate free material.  This particular silicone has a shiny surface which picks up lint and hair like crazy.  It’s important to wash/rinse the toy prior to each use to eliminate any particles that they toy may have picked up since you last used and cleaned it, and always wash it once you’re finished.  Being shiny, this dildo also has a lot of drag to it.  It’s important to use a good water-based lubricant to help it glide across the skin more easily.

Blush Novelties calls this Sensa Feel dual density, the inner layer is firm while the outer layer is nice and plush.  It gives it a much more realistic feel as a result, being rigid enough to thrust with, while being soft enough that it won’t cause any discomfort.  This isn’t a new concept, both Vixen Creations and Tantus have dual density dildos, but it’s ways nice to see another company join in since they’re all slightly different.


Untitled-3The surface itself doesn’t have any texture apart from the exaggerated head, but has a lot of give and flexibility to it.  It bends easily with your hands, but remains stiff enough that it’s easy to use.  The head itself has the most give to it since the firm inner core doesn’t begin until just below the head.  It might be a little bit of a challenge to insert as a result, but it shouldn’t be difficult to most.

With the outer layer being so soft, you have to be careful not to accidentally mark it with your finger nails, rings, or other firm or sharp objects.  It gets marks on it easily, which seems to be a trend with me since my nails are almost always long.


Untitled-5The whole Real Nude line from Blush Novelties features abstract looking dildos.  They are phallic in shape, but are very different than what you typically find when you look for realistic options; Sumo isn’t the exception.  Sumo features an exaggerated head (with a dimple in the tip to represent the urethral opening), a thinner, smooth shaft, and one mound at the bottom to represent the testicles.  Just below the testicles is a suction cup that extends from the bottom.  It’s not discreet in any way, but might make some feel more comfortable that it doesn’t look exactly like the real thing.  It would be nice to see these available in a variety of fun colors, but they are currently only available in two different flesh tones; Almond (vanilla in coloring, the color I own) and Toffee (a little darker).

Sumo is the largest dildo from the Real Nude line, but don’t let it intimidate you!  The girth might seem large coming it at 5 3/4″ at the widest and 5 1/4″ in circumference at the thinnest, but keep in mind the outer layer is plush, so it doesn’t feel quite as thick as it might seem.  The full length is 10 1/4″ including suction cup, with 7 1/4″ being insertable.  It’s on the longer side, but works in your favor when you take advantage of the suction cup.  It’s not beginner friendly, but many regular toy users should enjoy the size.


Untitled-9The suction cup on this piece works surprisingly well.  Though it works best on clean, smooth surfaces (like the tub or shower wall) it also works quite well on most walls, floors, doors, etc.  It doesn’t come off easily when you tug on it, but sliding your finger underneath the cup itself easily breaks the suction.  This is also where the length comes in handy.  It’s simple to back yourself up against it or even face the wall while you trust your hips.


Sumo is easy to clean and care for because of the awesome material.  For regular use, you can simply wash with antibacterial soap and warm water or your favorite sex toy cleaner.  If you’re sharing with a partner or switching between orifices, you can easily sterilize the dildo by cleaning it with a 10% bleach solution, boiling it for three minutes, or placing it on the top rack of your dishwasher.

Being made from silicone, it’s best to use only a water-based lubricant with this toy.  Other types might degrade the surface of your toy, making it unusable, so it’s always smart to stick with what you know is safe.

Along with your Sumo, comes a microfiber storage pouch that fits your toy perfectly; protecting it from lint and dust as well as surface damage.



Sumo arrives in a plastic package that proudly displays the dildo through the mostly clear sides.  The outside contains the only Untitled-7information included with the product, but it’s all pretty basic and straightforward.  Once you open the top of the package, you Untitled-6need to remove a small plastic piece that protects the top of the toy, but then the dildo is easily removed.  Beneath the dildo is a specially folded, thin cardboard box containing the included storage pouch.  The packaging isn’t important to keep, you can easily break it down and recycle it.


When I first saw the Real Nude line I wasn’t sure what I thought about them.  I thought they looked interesting in one sense, but didn’t really understand the abstract shape to them.  Still, the idea of trying out a dildo from a new line of dual density toys held my interest pretty strong.  I’ve loved all the cored dildos I’ve used before, so I figured it was worth a shot.

When I first pulled Sumo out of the packaging, I was surprised by how it looked and felt.  It was a lot lighter than I was expecting for the size, but I loved the squishy material.  Not too firm, not too soft, truly just right.  I took my photos and set off to test it.  The first thing I tried out was the suction cup.  It wouldn’t stay suctioned to the wall in by bedroom, so I tried the shower wall, hoping it would work there.  I was extremely disappointed when it immediately fell from the wall.  I had heard from others that the suction cup was nice and strong, so I wasn’t sure what was going on.  After contacting the company we realized that the first cup was defective, so they quickly sent me a new one.

As soon as I pressed the new one against the wall I was amazed at how well it stayed put.  I left it on the shower wall while I went around and did some other things, and after 10 minutes the dildo was still firmly in place.  Score!  I could hardly wait to try it out!  That night I brought Sumo and my go-to clitoral vibe into the shower with me for a little bit of relaxing fun.

Instantly I fell in love!

The length paired with the suction cup was perfect!  I faced the shower wall as I used it and was amazed at how well it stimulated my G-spot, and how quickly it sent me over the edge.  Sumo and I are now shower BFFs!  And hopefully will be for a long time to come!

Interested in purchasing your own Sumo or another of the amazing Real Nude dildos?  Click the link below.


Sumo was provided to me free of charge in exchange for an unbiased review.  This is in compliance with FTC guidelines.

Oct 282013


Photo courtesy of BeckAndHerKinks

Welcome to HedoVibes, a collection of reviews and giveaways that were posted in the past week or so from around the web. This is a collection of adult product reviews & contests from real reviewers. If you want to be included in the next edition? Start with the guidelines then use the submission form. Want to read more reviews? Check out HedoVibes for a list of the latest reviews and stellar reviewers. You can also follow on twitter for the latest round ups. HedoVibes is also accepting photo submissions for each edition.


  • Cover Me With… -by Alison Tyler (ends 10/31)
  • La Metropole Sensual Massager -by JustLikeHeaven (ends 10/31)
  • Tantus Vamp Grab Bag -by ClitStop (ends 10/31)
  • Pink October Giveaway -by BeckAndHerKinks (ends 10/31)
  • I Love You Dildo Giveaway -by KinkyMom (ends 10/31)
  • NS Infinit -by Sexuality Sanctuary & STC (ends 10/31)
  • WIN – We-vibe Touch -by Naughty-corner (ends 10/31)
  • SpunkLube Pink -by CliticalJenne (ends 10/31)
  • Happy birthday, M! Let’s hear it for the men! -by Rayne Millaray (ends 10/31)
  • Support Breast Cancer Awareness Month -by JustLikeHeaven (ends 10/31)
  • Win a copy of Dark Secret Love by Alison Tyler -by Property Of Potter (ends 10/31)
  • Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Sex Toys -by Geeky Nymph (ends 11/1)
  • A Few of My Favorite Things -by Krissy Novacaine (ends 11/1)
  • October Giveaway -by Despina Rose (ends 11/1)
  • $50 PinkCherry Shopping Spree -by dizzygirl (ends 11/5)
  • Win a Rarity! -by Naughty Reenie (ends 11/5)
  • Win Cara’s Kinky Sex Pot! -by Cara Sutra (ends 11/10)
  • Win a Dream Date with Nick Hawk -by Club CalExotics (ends 1/16)


  • Vixen Creations Leoweenie -by Incendiaire
  • Tantus Echo w/Handle -by Rayne Millaray
  • Crystal G Glass Dildo by Sinclair Institute -by JustLikeHeaven
  • Tantus Alumina Motion -by Naughty Reenie
  • Exotic-Erotics Hippocampus -by dizzygirl


  • Nexus Femme Bisous Rechargeable Rotating Rabbit -by Cara Sutra
  • Revel Body Sonic Vibrator -by Cara Sutra
  • Blush Novelties Too Cute -by BeckAndHerKinks
  • We-Vibe Touch -by Rayne Millaray
  • We-Vibe Thrill -by Rayne Millaray
  • Blush Novelties Emerald G Rabbit -by BeckAndHerKinks
  • Key Pyxis By Jopen -by JustLikeHeaven
  • LELO Liv 2 -by dizzygirl

Anal Toys

  • Holt by Tantus -by Krissy Novacaine
  • Tantus Asteroid -by Beanfiddler
  • Tantus Little Flirt -by JustLikeHeaven

Rings & Strokers

  • Pleasure PULSE Male Masturbator & Couples’ Sex Toy -by Cara Sutra

Bondage, Impact & Fetish Gear


  • Tantus Vibrating Strap-on Harness -by Lori&Hubby


  • The Original Sqweel Oral Sex Simulator -by Cara Sutra
  • Give Lube Cheeky Wash & Expandable Cheeky Wipes -by Cara Sutra



Oct 262013

sinfulsunday26This past Tuesday I finished the 26th year of my life.  I had been feeling a little down because I didn’t receive any cards in the mail and only one person called me, but my blogging/reviewer/online friends did an amazing job at making my day special (thank you!)

When evening came, I was pleased to hear my husband tell me it was time for bed, hoping he’d want to spend a little extra special time with me.  We took our time kissing and cuddling, and he was more than willing to make my evening pleasurable.  The lack of excitement from the day was completely forgotten as we embraced each other and shared our love; it was just what I needed and turned into the perfect birthday gift.

After all the passion, we decided it was time for some birthday spankings.  I never really understood the point of them when I was a child, but I can’t say I mind them now.  My husband had a blast trying to mark my bottom, and we ended up laughing and having a great time.  I didn’t get 26 blows, but it was still a great way to close that year of my life and start the next.

Sinful Sunday

Oct 262013

9781573449564_p0_v2_s260x420Recently I had the pleasure of joining forces with Cleis Press and in doing so, was introduced to the wonderful work of Alison Tyler.  Her latest book Dark Secret Love is a memoir-inspired novel, teetering on the edge of truth and fiction.  This well written novel is hard to put down as you follow the story of Samantha and her journey of submission; wondering all the while how much of Alison is truly tucked within the pages.  Be sure to check out my full review and enter my giveaway to win a paperback copy of Dark Secret Love (giveaway ends Oct 31).

Thanks to the awesome blog tour going on, I have the pleasure today of featuring a piece she wrote about that very question, revealing the answer while leaving the perfect amount of curiosity.  Make sure you check out the other stops along the tour to learn more about Alison Tyler and her latest novel; Dark Secret Love.


Hot Mess

By Alison Tyler

            It’s a mess in my head. There are lists of words tacked to one wall. Notes for future projects. Sound bites of conversations immortalized on one of those old-fashioned reel-to-reels. Polaroids litter the coffee table. A jukebox in one corner plays vinyl records, 24/7, and a bookshelf against a wall sags with the weight of novels and memoirs. Coffee percolates on the Formica counter. Cans of spray paint reside in an open cabinet. There are sex toys and perfumes and lipsticks by the drawer. Oh and let’s not forget the bar.

Yes, my mind is a hot mess.

For most of my stories, I give readers a sliver. I open the door a crack and let a glimmer of neon light shine through.

In Bachelor’s Dessert, you’ll find me in the clothes:

            He looks me up and down, slowly. I’m wearing my beat-in Levis and my riding boots. A t-shirt so old and threadbare you can see the color of my bra underneath—lemon yellow, with lace on the edges. I have to use a safety pin to make the clasp hold. No mascara. No eyeliner. The blush on my cheeks is for real.

In Boilermaker, catch me in the tears:

“You’ll hold still for this, boy. If you know what’s good for you.”

            Parker turned his head away, bit his lip, felt the terror in his heart. But he stayed put as Clint whipped the tar out of him, licking him long and fast with that old leather belt before kicking his legs apart. Parker crying for the first time in god knew how long. Not just tears streaking his face, but sobs—a sound he didn’t recognize, one he couldn’t remember ever having made before.

And here I am in Burned, all wrapped up in yearning:

I looked into his eyes. We had not done this yet. We had fucked like animals fuck. He had taken me against the wall. He had driven his cock hard into my ass. But we had done no power play. Not the kind where you might need a safeword. The term bondage hadn’t even rippled between us. Until now. “You stay,” he said. He had his fingertips pressed against my clit. He alternated between licking that hard bud and rubbing his thumb directly across the top. Giving me too much pressure, too much pleasure, all at once.

Yes, I slip myself in all my stories. A little bit—only a flicker—in some. A bit more—a golden shot glass of whiskey—in others. For Dark Secret Love, I pulled on my knee-high glossy black Doc Marten boots and I kicked the fucking door down.

Wanna see the inside my mind?

You’ll find me on every single page.


Alison Tyler is the author of …well, a lot of stories. (There are 205 unpublished tales on her hard drive at this moment.) She’s edited anthologies for Cleis Press, Plume, and Harlequin. Her BDSM-drenched novellas include Tied Up & Twisted (Harlequin), Those Girls (Go Deeper), and Banging Rebecca (Pretty Things Press). Dark Secret Love is the first in a series of memoir-inspired novels. The Delicious Torment (second in the series) will be out in January. Visit her at alisontyler.blogspot.com for this, that, and the other.

Oct 242013

Deluxe Leather Queen of Spades Spanking Paddle

- Lightweight
- Cute/sexy design
- Easy to use
- Beginner to intermediate friendly
- Makes an impression (literally)
- Has a wrist strap
- Not durable enough for heavy play
- Advanced players will find it lacking
- Not vegan friendly




The Deluxe Leather Queen of Spades Spanking Paddle from Bondage Boutique is a paddle designed to leave an impression, quite literally!  This attractive paddle is best for those just starting out in impact play and those who prefer to keep things lighter in general.  While it does provide a solid slap, it’s probably not intense enough for advanced users, but would be a suitable warm up.

The great design makes it suitable for any gender, in any type of relationship.  It’s not too girly, but isn’t overly masculine looking either so the overall look should appeal to most.  Best used with a partner, the spanking paddle can be used on any area of the body, whether you’re into BDSM or just dipping your toes into spanking play.

As with any impact tool, the harder you hit, the more obvious the mark.  Even with firm blows, it takes a moment for the area to turn a soft red, but doesn’t cause extreme pain and doesn’t last long.  Within an hour, the red will have completely faded, though your individual experience may vary slightly.


Untitled-4The Queen of Spades Spanking Paddle is primarily made from leather, but does have plastic between the two sides to make it a little more sturdy.  Both sides are stitched together and cleanly finished, giving it a nearly seamless appearance.  The only other material in this paddle is a small metal piece in the handle that creates a small opening for the wrist strap to go through.

One side of the paddle is totally smooth; the leather feels silky, and there are no raised areas that would create a specific design following impact.  The opposite side has a red spade that is slightly raised from the smooth leather.  It has a wrinkled or weathered appearance to it, but this texture doesn’t show up on the skin.

The paddle isn’t solid, but does have a bit of flexibility to it.  It won’t fold in half, not even close, but does bend a little with slight pressure.  Had it been totally solid, it would have provided a more intense sensation when slapped.


The look of this paddle is truly something different.  The Queen of Spades Spanking Untitled-8Paddle doesn’t feature a crude word, isn’t a cutesy heart, flower, or star; it’s a cool looking spade.  Often times these ‘impression’ type paddles claim they will leave a design wherever it’s slapped, but not many of them work as they should.  This one surprised me.  While you may immediately assume the spade would cause a red mark, it’s actually quite the opposite.  The area surrounding the spade turns red, while the spade itself remains your regular skin tone.

While the marks it produces might look painful, the sting doesn’t last long, even with someone trying to Untitled-7hit you as hard as they can.  Though I definitely felt every blow, the sensation fades almost as quickly as it starts and you won’t find yourself having an issue with sitting down or any lasting discomfort.

Non-threatening and reasonable in size, this spanking paddle is a great option for someone new to this form of play.  Thanks to the wrist strap at the base and the thinner handle, it’s comfortable to hold and easy to use.  Always make sure you start softer and build your way up since everyone experiences pain and discomfort differently and you don’t want to overwhelm your partner when they aren’t ready for you.

Untitled-6The full length is 13 1/8″ long and is 2 1/2″ wide at the business end of the paddle.  The handle itself thins to 1 1/8″ before increasing in size at the rounded base where the wrist cord is.  The cord should fit most wrist sizes, but you could easily untie it to replace with something longer, or to make the leather cord opening smaller.  Being only 1/4″ thick, it’s designed to be tucked away in a dresser drawer, nightstand, or something similar, and would easily be concealed by packing it between folded clothes in your luggage when traveling.



Should something get on the surface of your paddle, make sure you wipe it with a damp cloth and don’t allow any liquids or bodily fluids to be left without cleaning.  While most paddles are made from furniture grade leather and are sealed well, it’s best not to chance something happening to the surface.

There are no specific concerns about how to store your paddle, just make sure it’s in a safe area where nothing with scratch or puncture the leather.



Untitled-3Your Queen of Spades Spanking Paddle arrives in a sealed plastic bag with a tag attached to the wrist cord.  The tag has the company information on it, but isn’t overly informative apart from that.  It’s easily removed and can be saved or discarded as you wish.

Inside the package you’ll find something super awesome from Bondage Boutique.  With every Bondage Boutique item you purchase you’ll receive a loyalty card and sticker(s).  The more items you buy, the more stickers you’ll receive, and you’ll build up to getting one or two paddles for free depending on how long you save.  It’s a great way for them to attract business, and reward their loyal customers!  Talk about incentive!

Once your card is full with either 10 spots filled for one spanker, or 15 spots for two, you simply send the card in and they’ll send out your reward.  If you’re in the UK you don’t need to do anything but place it in the mail, but if you’re in the US you’ll need to add a stamp.


The Queen of Spades Spanking Paddle isn’t the first impact toy I’ve used, and isn’t the first that claimed it would leave a cool design on my warmed skin.  After being disappointed by the others I’d tried out, I didn’t have a lot of hope in this one.  What drew me to this particular paddle was the fact it wasn’t some girly design, and was something I knew my husband would like the look of, whether it left the right impression or not.

I was pretty impressed with the quality of the paddle.  The spade itself looked a little frayed on the  side, but isn’t bad, and the stitching is very well done.  I knew it wasn’t going to be an intense paddle just by holding it in my hands, but my husband thought he could prove otherwise.

When we were both ready, he put his hand back and landed the first blow to my right cheek (butt of course!).  I closed my eyes, knowing he was going to hit me as hard as he could, but was surprised when the sting only lasted a few seconds.  He laughed at me and told me he could do better, and though he tried, it never got so intense that I couldn’t handle it.  It turned into a sort of challenge for him, and one he wasn’t able to win.

While it didn’t cause me much discomfort, I was actually really pleased by it.  I could feel totally secure that my husband wouldn’t push my limits too hard, while still being able to enjoy a little sting thrown in the mix.  We were both pleased and surprised by how well the spade shows up, and think this is a wonderful paddle for beginners and intermediate users alike.

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Deluxe Leather Queen of Spades Spanking Paddle was provided to me free of charge in exchange for an unbiased review.  This is in compliance with FTC guidelines.

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1packageNo, it’s not an actual gift for me, but it certainly was presented that way!  I’ve never received a review item that was so beautifully packaged!  Huge thank you to Vibrator Kingdom for making my day!  I bet you’re all just dying to know what it contains…aren’t you?