Shower anyone?
This isn’t something that’s a fetish to me at all, but if my man and I are in the shower, it never fails; he urinates on me. He finds it funny, and it doesn’t bother me. It normally happens when I’m washing my face, or not paying attention, and I feel the warm stream on my foot, or the side of my leg. I shake my head at him and we laugh, he’s such a goofball sometimes and I adore him!
Recently, someone on twitter shared a link that brought up a lot of emotions within me. The post was titled, “How Fatness Turns Cute Girls into Ugly” and features 28 pages of comparison photos; one side displaying a thinner image, and the other showing the same woman after they gained some weight. Some of the images show such a small difference that I could hardly tell they had gained weight, and yet, these women were being viewed as ugly by someone simply because their weight had increased.
I was once a cute girl…
and then I gained weight.
This image is of my 17 year old self. I struggled my whole life with feeling like I was fat, being made fun of because I was a bigger child, and internalize every negative comment I received. In this photo, I was at my smallest (and didn’t normally wear a hat and sunglasses, they were my boyfriend’s, but they do slightly conceal my face which was why I chose this image). I weighed 162 lbs and hated every inch of my body.
I didn’t have female friends, I had a bunch of guy friends and every one of them told me I would be the ‘perfect girl’ if I could lose 30-50 lbs. These were my friends who knew me better than anyone else. They knew I was a good person, they knew I was fun, we were into the same things, and because I wasn’t skinny, I couldn’t ever be more than a friend in their eyes. I wasn’t interested in anything more than friendships with them, but it was like a slap in the face.
This photo is about 8 years old and every time I look at it I’m filled with sadness. I wasn’t fat, I wasn’t ugly, and I would give anything to go back and apologize to myself for the sadness I put myself through. I believed all the negative comments, and shook my head at every positive thing I was ever told.
I gained weight during my first pregnancy, but lost most of it within the first few months after my daughter was born. Ever since then it’s been this horrible yo-yo between losing and gaining weight.
I’m not comfortable showing my face on my blog (as of right now), but this image is from earlier this summer where I’m a little more than 100 lbs heavier than the previous image (you’ve probably seen this photo of me before).
Did fatness change me into an ugly person? Well, I guess that’s all a matter of opinion. I don’t love my body, but I’m learning to. I’ve overcome a lot of negative thoughts, have worked through a huge amount of insecurities, and struggle daily with getting negative thoughts out of my mind.
Seeing these woman, displayed in such a way, and being treated like they’re unattractive because they’ve gained a little weight, nearly brought tears to my eyes. These are real people, with real feelings. It angers me so much that ANYONE would look down on another person for their physical appearance changing. Whether it’s from a weight gain, weight loss, or something else, you are more than your appearance!
So, was I a cute girl turned into an ugly girl because of ‘fatness’? Or am I a good person who loves deeply, tries hard to be a good person/friend, tries to be open-minded and understanding, etc.? I guess it’s all in how you view things.
In my mind, I guess there’s just more of me to extend love to others, and that’s how I’ll view my transition. I encourage you all to do the same for yourselves.
Try to always remember, what you say has an impact on others. Even if they play it off like it doesn’t bother them, hateful words hurt. Being called names hurts, even if you say you’re joking. That one seemingly small comment you made to someone, could be the one thing they’ve held onto throughout their lives. You can make all the difference in the world, it’s up to you whether that difference is positive or negative. Make the right choice.
Thank you to The Sin Doll for this week’s regular TMI Tuesday questions. We know that you are all sexy, all the time but…
1. Create your perfect job. What do you do?
I would work from home. Ideally, I would love to do something that sparks creativity. I love making things and wish I could find a way to make some money doing something I love while still being able to stay at home with my children.
2. What person has changed you for the better?
My children. Each one of them have helped me learn to be a better person in one way or another. I’ve learned so much from them.
3. Cat person or dog person?
Cat, all the way! I love big, fat, lazy, lovey cats! Wish I had one!
4. Who is your favorite relative? Why?
Apart from the family I created myself, it would be my grandmother. She’s one of the strongest women I know and a lot of my personality comes from her.
5. Mop the floor or iron clothes?
Mop the floor. I only iron when it comes to making things, not doing laundry.
6. Which would you rather have, a swimming pool or a gardener? Why?
Swimming pool! I love swimming and would go in a pool daily if I owned one.
You know I had to throw some sexy at ya...
Bonus: Are you better at giving oral sex or receiving oral sex?
Giving, all the way! I love taking my time and really making it blow his mind! It gives me a sense of pride knowing I’m able to bring him so much pleasure.
Pros:
- Attractive
- Simple design
- Easy to figure out
- Adjustable
- Tag can be removed
- Nice weight
Cons:
- Not made for larger nipples
- A little hard to adjust
Overall:
-Intro/Use-
Fifty Shades “The Pinch” are adjustable nipple clamps from the official Fifty Shades of Grey collection. This particular design is often referred to as ‘tweezer clamps’ because they’re attached together on one end, and pinch together on the opposite end; much like a regular pair of tweezers.
The Pinch comes as a set and includes two individual clamps; one for each breast. Pinching the two sides together is a little slider, when the slider is at the bottom, the tips are at their widest. You place each tip of the clamps on either side of your nipple and slide the metal piece toward the top. The higher the bar, the tighter the clamps will pinch. The size of your nipple will also play a factor in how these clamps work for you. If you have larger nipples, the clamps will be naturally tight from the start, but those will smaller nipples will need to raise the slider in order for them to clamp down.
The color and design makes these mostly gender neutral, though some might feel they have a more feminine look to them because of the weighted beads on the bottom. Either way, no matter what gender you are, these nipple clamps are suitable for use. If nipple clamps aren’t your thing, you could easily use one as a clit clamp, or get creative and find your own use for them. They’re only as intense as you allow them to be.
Surprising even to me, The Pinch clamps feel very well made. While they might not provide an extreme feeling that certain people enjoy, the intensity is suitable for those that like a decent pinch without experiencing actual pain. However, it wouldn’t be difficult for these to cause some, especially if you yank them off. Make sure you hold the tips in place while you move the slider down before taking them off to prevent discomfort.
-Material/Texture-
The Pinch clamps are made from a few different materials and the packaging is rather vague, stating that they’re made from metal, silicone, and beading. It doesn’t specify what type of metal so if you have metal allergies, use these with caution. Though the silicone is what comes in direct contact with your nipples, the metal from the rest of the clamps could irritate your skin. The beads are also held on by a thin silver cord. This isn’t metal, but there’s no information on what it is exactly.
The metal isn’t painted, which I was very pleased to see. It’s polished and totally smooth to the touch. Since they aren’t painted, the slider doesn’t cause any type of chipping or scratching. The silicone tips have seams that run along either side but can’t be felt during use. They can be removed to clean, but should always be in place when you’re wearing them. Once removed, they expose little impressions in the metal that help keep the tips on the clamps. They’re easy to intentionally remove, but don’t fall off on their own.
-Design/Size-
The Pinch clamps are pretty straightforward and easy to understand. They’re basic, but sometimes using a design that works well is better than trying to create something totally new and different. The tips are covered to protect your nipples from the metal, and each side is straight and held together by a metal piece that resembles an 8. The base is curved, creating an open circular design where the weighted beads and tag rest. There are four beads on each clamp and go from smallest to largest in size. The largest is the final bead and is open on the bottom. Inside, you can see where the cord it attached to the bottom, preventing the beads from becoming loose and falling off. The little tag attached has the words, ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ imprinted on them. These are attached using small metal rings that resemble key rings and can easily be removed. So even if you’re not a big fan of Fifty Shades, you can still use and enjoy these clamps.
The weight and size are both very reasonable, though won’t work for everyone. The weight gives them a presence without making you feel like they’re dragging your nipples down to the floor. While I can totally appreciate the fact that they’re modestly sized and adjustable, they don’t open very wide and aren’t suited to accommodate larger nipples without potentially causing some discomfort. It might seem like that wouldn’t be an issue, but you shouldn’t be feeling discomfort as you’re putting them in place. At their widest, The Pinch clamps open 1/4″ and at their tightest, just under 1/16″.
The full length of the clamps is 3 1/2″; 5/8″ for the tips, 1 5/8″ for the bare metal, and 1 1/4″ for the beads and cord on the bottom. These are easy to conceal and travel with, fitting easily inside a purse, suitcase, etc. and would probably blend in pretty well if you were to store them in a jewelry box. Though they aren’t totally discreet, they certainly don’t scream ‘sex toy’ unless someone who’s familiar with products like this were to see them.
-Care-
Care is pretty basic for The Pinch clamps. You can remove the tips and soak them in a 10% bleach solution, and wipe down the metal with a disinfecting wipe for cleaning. Because it’s not obvious what the cording is, try to avoid getting bodily fluids on that area. If you 
use one or both of these as a clit clamp, make sure they’re thoroughly cleaned, and always make sure the metal is dried after washing.
There’s no need to concern yourself with intentionally using lube with these clamps, but try to avoid getting a silicone-based lube near the tips. Because they’re also made from silicone they could react to each other, possibly making them unusable.
Included along with your clamps is a grey pouch that keeps them together, making it harder for one or both to get lost. The pouch closes using a drawstring and has ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ printed on one side. It’s not totally discreet because of that, but because of how small these are, you could easily tuck them in a small area, away from curious eyes.
-Packaging-
The Pinch clamps come in a thin, shiny, cardboard box that looks like it should contain a cologne rather than nipple clamps. The front of the box only has text apart from a small image of a grey tie toward the top, but the back shows an illustration of what the clamps look like. The back also gives a quote from the Fifty Shades of Grey novel and gives you a brief look at what the clamps are all about.
Once the box is opened, you’ll see the clamps attached to another piece of cardboard that’s folded into a triangle. They’re clamped to it and also taped down, preventing them from coming undone during storage and shipment, but are simple to remove. Inside the box you’ll also find a small paper that has a little information about how to use the clamps and is written in a few different languages.
-Experience-
So, I admit it, I’ve read Fifty Shades of Grey. After all the publicity, how couldn’t I? It was actually the first published piece of erotica I ever read and I felt shy letting my husband know I was interested in them. Ah, how the times have changed! I didn’t get sucked into the books like some did, but I didn’t completely hate them like others. My interest in these clamps have nothing to do with my feelings toward the books. I didn’t go nuts over these because they were Fifty Shades of anything. I really liked the look and design of them, and was interested in seeing how they would work for me.
When I opened the packaging, I was immediately surprised by the weight of them. I was honestly expecting something super cheap and tacky; light weight plastic beads, thin metal that easily bent, and rubber tips; but was greeted with good quality clamps. I was super excited to try them out! I lowered the slider to the bottom and I immediately knew these weren’t going to work well for me. I have pretty thick nipples, approximately 1/2″ across, and I could tell these weren’t going to be easy to put on.
I tried carefully pulling the sides apart a little bit to help, but the metal is quite firmly in place and really didn’t give me much wiggle room. I tried sliding them onto my nipples and felt uncomfortable the whole time. Even without using the slider at all they were pinching quite firmly. I managed to get them on and even tightened them, but they just didn’t feel right to me. The weight was awesome, and the pressure was okay, but being unable to put them on comfortably was a big negative to me.
These are best used by someone with smaller nipples than mine, so make sure you measure yours before purchasing. While you do want there to be a good pinch to them, they shouldn’t be causing discomfort before you’ve even slid the bar up. These didn’t work for me only because my nipples are thick. I’m so sad because I love the look, the weight, and the overall idea, but they weren’t sized right for me.
Fifty Shades “The Pinch” nipple clamps and other items from the official Fifty Shades of Grey collection are available at TabuToys. Click the banner below to discover more.
Fifty Shades “The Pinch” nipples clamps were provided to me free of charge in exchange for an unbiased review. This is in compliance with FTC guidelines.
Photo courtesy of Mrs JoJo (@josephine_kk)
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Have you seen the images yet? I’ve been a big fan of the company since 2010 when my husband and I purchased the We-Vibe II. We didn’t fall in love with that version, but I’ve since tried many of the other items available and haven’t been disappointed yet! Most recently we tested out the We-Vibe 3 and were both really impressed with it, I can’t wait to see how we enjoy We-Vibe 4! Check out the images and information they recently released:
We-Vibe 4 takes couples to new heights of intimate pleasure. The world’s number 1 couples vibrator, completely redesigned for better fit, heightened intensity and more control. She wears it during sex for extra stimulation to her clitoris and G-spot. Together they both share the vibe.
Extensive product research and testing with consumers, retailers, sexologists, relationship counsellors, OB/GYNs and sex researchers has led to the most advanced We-Vibe to date.
We-Vibe 4 is shaped for even greater pleasure. Its new compact form hugs the body to deliver stronger, more intense vibrations. The curved clitoral stimulator follows the curve of her body and gently rests between the labia, while the stiff mid-section ensures a snug fit. The redesigned G-spot stimulator sits in place behind the pelvic bone, increasing stability and comfort for both partners.
It’s one wild vibe. Made with silky-soft medical- grade silicone*, We-Vibe 4 is body-safe and 100% waterproof for fun in the shower and easy cleaning. The simple control button, at the top of the clitoral stimulator, cycles through 6 vibration modes. Or the remote control allows for fine-tuning of the stimulation. Use the up/down buttons to step through 10 levels of intensity or press and hold the up button to soar to max right away. Use the left/right buttons to go backward or forward through the modes — including the new Echo vibe, which alternates between G-spot and clitoral vibration.
Feature summary
1 Carbon-neutral manufacturing, a rechargeable battery and recyclable packaging and materials make the We-Vibe 4 an eco-friendly choice.
*hopefully this means it’s doesn’t attract lint like the others!
Do you think the changes will be satisfying to more users? What do you think of the updates? Is this something you’d be interested in purchasing?
Does this seem taboo to you?
Pros:
- Made from silicone
- Super smooth surface
- Modest size
- Variety of speeds/patterns
Cons:
- Weak
- Buzzy/numbing
- Waterproof but can’t be submerged?
- Doesn’t come with storage
Overall:
-Intro/Use-
Karma from the OHM line by Blush Novelties is a compact vibrator with a twist, quite literally! This twisted vibe is great for those that prefer a toy that provides a bumpy type of stimulation, and is short enough that it shouldn’t be uncomfortable to use.
Best for the ladies, Karma can be used internally or externally. The rounded tip works great for broad clitoral stimulation, nipple play, and can be used on other erogenous areas of the body. When it comes to penetration it’s very stimulating despite the fact this toy isn’t curved in any way. While it doesn’t target your G-spot, it provides great sensations thanks to the wonderful design. There isn’t a flared base on the bottom, so Karma isn’t anal safe, but can be used externally in that area.
The shorter length and ease of use make it a great item to use along with your partner. Though the material is a little on the firm side, it’s very unlikely that you or your partner could bump your cervix and cause discomfort.
The packaging stats that the toy is waterproof, but in the fine print says that it shouldn’t be submerged. It’s best to treat this toy like it’s splash proof; safe for the shower and running it under water to clean, but shouldn’t be used in the tub or left to soak.
-Material/Texture-
Made from silicone and ABS plastic, Karma is body safe, latex free, non-porous, and phthalate free. They’re both super safe materials that are great choices in adult products. The battery compartment and internal parts are made from plastic while the insertable area of the toy is made from silicone.
The silicone it’s made from is buttery smooth to the touch and glides over the skin easily. While you can’t bend it, you can very lightly squish it. It’s not just a layer over the plastic, there’s actually some padding there. It does feel pretty firm during use, but in your hands the give is more obvious.
There’s no texture to the surface itself, the texture comes from the shape of the toy. The thick twists provide a bumpy sensation that makes the toy feel more unbalanced than it looks. While the twists are very tidy looking, the sensation is very different (though quite stimulating) when you’re thrusting it inside of you. Twisting it feels more natural, but your experience may be different than mine.
The button itself is made from the same silicone as the rest of the toy, but is on the plastic battery cap and has a small nub that stick up from it. Because of this it’s easy to find the button even when you aren’t looking at the vibe or it’s too dark to see.
-Design/Size-
Karma is pretty interesting to look at. It’s available in both Mint and Berry and has a really interesting shape. The twists give it a really unique look and the stimulation that comes from them is pretty unusual as well. I’ve tried a lot of toys that have a twisted shape to them, but they’re much thicker on Karma and feel different than what I’ve experienced before.
The tip of the toy is nice and rounded, the shaft is covered with the twisted pattern, and the base of the toy is the button/battery cap. The fun colors, the interesting design, and the ease of use are all great for most, it’s the texture/girth that might steer some beginners away from this product. While the length is very reasonable, the girth might be too much for some (and not enough for others) and the texture won’t be for everyone.
The size makes it a good choice if your’e looking for a travel friendly toy. Being a total of 6″ in length, it wouldn’t take up too much room in most purses, backpacks, etc. but it might be obvious that it’s a vibe should someone catch sight of it. The insertable length is 4 3/4″ and the largest area is 4 1/2″ in circumference. The tip is slightly smaller being 4″ around because it doesn’t have the twists on it. It’s a very reasonable size, but the texture makes it feel a little larger and more awkward than a standard vibe would (to a beginner or someone who doesn’t care for texture).
-Functions/Controls-
Karma is powered by two AAA batteries which aren’t included. The base of the battery cap twists off and inside is a thin plastic piece that surrounds the compartment. It shows you exactly how the batteries should be inserted. It’s important to keep the plastic piece in place at all times, including when the batteries are inside. You’ll also see the black rubber ring around the base of the battery cap, this prevents water from accidentally leaking into the toy when you’re washing or using it in the shower. Though it’s in place, the packaging clearly states that the toy should never be submerged.
Once the cap is back in place, Karma can be turned on. There is only one button and it controls turning it on, changing the setting, and turning the toy off. Pressing the raised button once will turn it on to the first setting. Each click after that will bring you to a different setting and when you’re ready to turn the toy off, you can cycle through all the patterns or hold it down for a few seconds until it powers off. No matter what setting you were on when you turned the toy off, it will always take you back to the first function when you turn it back on.
Karma features 5 different intensity levels that range from extremely low to high (which feels more like a medium to me), and includes 5 different patterns. The power behind the patterns can’t be increased or lowered, what you feel when you click it is what you get. The first five settings are the power levels, the sixth click of the button will bring you to your first pattern. They are as follows:
Though there is some variety in the patterns, they are all pretty similar. There wasn’t a roller coaster setting or escalation; it’s mostly just different pulses. That’s a little disappointing, but I don’t normal focus on the patterns a toy has in general.
The power behind the toy is pretty lacking. The highest setting is hardly a medium, in my opinion, and is very light and buzzy. It’s more numbing than satisfying and won’t work for those of us that require powerful, rumbly vibrations. If you’re super sensitive and like a lighter touch, you might enjoy this, but even the semi-sensitive toy user might be let down.
The power does travel well through the toy, but that also means your fingers will get a little numb as well. There’s really no way to avoid this other than to get someone else to use it on you, so it can also be a little bothersome.
The sound level is pretty modest. On the highest setting you can hear it if you’re in the same room with someone, but even a little white noise would cover that up. From outside of a closed door, no one would know what you’re doing.
-Care-
Karma is pretty easy to care for in general. It can be cleaned before and after use with antibacterial soap and warm water or your favorite sex toy cleaner. Because the twists are pretty wide and rather shallow, there aren’t little areas where stuff could get trapped, so it’s very easy to clean. If you’re sharing with someone else you can also sterilize it by cleaning it with a 10% bleach solution, but because of the internal parts, you can’t boil it or place it in your dishwasher like you can silicone dildos.
Lube is pretty straightforward, you want to make sure you use a water-based only because the material could react to other types. Because the surface is nice and silky feeling, a little goes a long way.
To prevent anything from happening to the surface of your toy, you’ll want to find a storage pouch for it since it doesn’t come with one. A medium sized pouch would work best, or something similar. Always make sure the batteries are removed before storing to prevent your batteries from becoming drained.
-Packaging-
Karma comes in an attractive and tasteful looking box that features a little peeking hole on the front and a flap that will expose the toy without having to open the box. It’s okay for short term storage, but won’t last forever. The only information included with the toy is on the outside, and is very basic. There’s no additional information within the packaging. The vibe is housed in a plastic tray with a cover that’s formed to fit the toy perfectly, preventing it from bouncing around inside the package.
(the product looks much darker inside the packaging, my other photos are true what the berry coloring looks like)
-Experience-
After having recently reviewed a few twisted toys, I was asked if I had interest in Karma. The shape looked really interesting to me, so I figured it was worth a shot and would sort of go along with what I had recently been reviewing.
I was immediately impressed with the silky smooth surface, and very curious about what the wide twists were going to feel like during use, but once I inserted the batteries, I was immediately disappointed. I can’t get off from buzzy vibrations, no matter how I use a toy, but knew it was a gamble considering it’s powered by AAA batteries.
I tried to forget out how it felt in my hands and I put it to use. The vibrations did nothing but frustrate me and made it harder to climax from because it had numbed my clit. I ended up turning the toy off and just using it like a dildo. This felt surprisingly good to me. I was a little surprised that it didn’t feel more ribbed and had a strange bumpy feeling to it, but I thought it was alright.
Now, that being said, you never want to purchase a vibrator only to end up using it like a dildo ’cause the vibrations are such a let down. I don’t see this working for most, but if you’re very sensitive to vibrations and prefer a buzzy feeling to a rumbly one, this might be worth looking into. Other than that, I would pass and get something better from Blush Novelties, like Beau.
If you’re interested in purchasing your own Karma, you can by clicking this link. If you’re interested in seeing what else Blush Novelties has to offer, click the banner below.
Karma was provided to me free of charge in exchange for an unbiased review. This is in compliance with FTC guidelines.
Trying new things in the bedroom is an important element of self discovery. Touching yourself in a new way, trying out a new toy, exploring an area of your body you previously felt was off limits; all of it can truly broaden the way you experience pleasure. The same goes for couples when it comes to positions, toys, and how/where you’re touching/being touched. Everyone enjoys different things, and every once in a while you’ll come across something that no matter how hard to try to like it, you simply don’t. It’s always shocking when you hear about Bob not enjoying blowjobs or how much Jenny dislikes being fingered. Everyone associates these things with extreme pleasure, but the truth is, not everyone enjoys them.
When you’re trying something out on your own, keep this in mind:
Exploring on your own is often much easier than exploring with a partner. You’re only worried about your pleasure and if things don’t preform the way you hope, you’re the only one who feels disappointed.
With your partner:
Just because a previous partner enjoyed it, does not mean your current partner will.
No matter how many times you’ve tried something, there will just be some things you never enjoy. And even if it’s something everyone else you know seems to enjoy, it doesn’t make you weird or wrong for disliking it. While the majority of the world enjoys eating pizza, there are many that don’t care for it, the same goes with sexual enjoyment. Don’t put yourself in a box, and don’t force yourself to do things you don’t enjoy.
I’m all about trying new things and can’t express enough how important it is to keep an open mind about the pleasure you give and receive. There have been several things I never thought I would do, and they have since become a pretty regular part of our playtime. Once limits are set, don’t push them! Respect your own feelings, the feelings of your partner, and really openly communicate about your desires, insecurities, and what your limits are.
Keep an open mind, be respectful, and own your pleasure! Your pleasure is yours and no one else’s, and as long as you’re satisfied, that’s all that matters!